Day 12: Sober Success Stories
"How can you truly experience any emotion when you do not have access to your genuine feelings?" - Jason Vale
Welcome to Day 12!
I love the term "quit lit" - it describes a genre where people have written literature that share their stories of getting sober. The challenges, the hard bits, the funny parts and everything in between. Ultimately, the story ends with the author conquering sobriety - and honestly every book I've read, each person's life has turned out for the better.
My husband drinks and was not interested in quitting for even a challenge (totally cool and fine with me) and most of my friends drink so it's not like I have a lot of sober inspiration around me physically. So I turned to a lot of books - a lot of quit lit!
These sober success stories help in a variety of ways:
Through their experiences, they can offer pieces that I could relate to or prepare for in my own journey.
I had mentors to look up to and think about when I was faced with the decision of drinking. For example, I ADORE Bex Weller. I think she is fun, smart and courageous. And when I think about a situation when I am tempted to drink, I think about her and say, “Bex wouldn’t need a drink!”
They make me feel like I’m not so alone. As mentioned above, I don’t have a lot of people in my “real life” who abstain. So when I read other people’s stories, it reenforces the idea that there are loads of other people out there doing what I’m doing - and enjoying it and truly thriving!
I really needed to (and still do!) immerse myself in learning about how other people viewed alcohol in a negative way - to change my behavior and thought patterns. I was also pleasantly surprised to see that I actually had the energy and interest in reading after the kids went to bed (before, I would be two or three glasses of wine in and just go to sleep). Here are a list of my few favorite books, many of which I’ve read several times:
ber Diaries by Clare Pooley - As a mother of little ones, she just so accurately describes some of the unique stressors that come with being a mom, raising small children and doing all of the little duties that sometimes become pretty mundane. She is funny. She is smart. She is compassionate and I just can't recommend this book enough.
Mrs. D. Is Going Without by Lotta Dann - When she wrote the book, her children were small (which I obviously can relate to) and she is funny, honest and it’s just a good easy read. I’ve read it several times!
Kick The Drink Easily by Jason Vales - Good old fashioned straight forward advice in this book.
This Naked Mind by Annie Grace - I will admit, it took me a long time to get through this book. I pick it up and read a few chapters and go to something else. The information she presents is SO valuable but it’s not exactly an easy, breezy read. The best thing about Annie is that she completely changed my perspective on alcohol and I began to stop romanticizing it, which was so helpful for me.
A Happier Hour by Bex Weller - A really great and inspirational book. It’s easy to read and relate to as she’s a career woman who is able to achieve awesome and wonderful things once she decides to get sober.
Alcohol Explained by William Porter - It’s a great book that, like This Naked Mind, helps to end the romanticism behind drinking - and I oftentimes find myself reading the chapters in a British voice.
My Faire Junkie by Amy Dresner - So so funny. It’s compelling, intriguing, funny and even has some good Hollywood celebrity drama thrown in there for good measure.
The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober by Catherine Gray - She’s a great writer and her honesty about getting sober - and the advice/perspective she has on mass media, social pressures and breaking the news to friends before heading to an event was really helpful.
Dry by Augusten Burroughs - I’ve been a huge fan of the author of Running with Scissors for a long time. He is funny and honest and his background was in the advertising industry, which I enjoy reading about.
Between Breaths by Elizabeth Vargas - I will admit, I was triggered to return to drinking after I read this. I would read any of these with caution but it was interesting to learn about her struggle and how it honestly affected every aspect of her life - from her career to her family and her marriage to her friendships.
FOLLOW THE NEXT STEPS TO COMPLETE DAY 12
Check out a book from the library or treat yourself to a sober memoir today!
Say your Daily Mantra "I am the author of my own sober success story."
Head over to the Private Facebook Group and join us to share that you completed Day 12 (or post any successes or struggles you encountered)
Send any questions you may have to me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I want us all to have a successful 30-Day Reset so let me know how I can help.