The benefits of not drinking - realized by Huffington Post writer who completed Whole30

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Words matter. Sharing your experience matters. Sometimes I think that maybe I should stop sharing the benefits I have realized by not drinking. I start to devalue sharing my experience with women who are wanting to achieve the same in their lives.

And then I read this Huffington Post article, written by Jamie Feldman, and it reminded me how we need to keep talking about the reduced anxiety, happier mood and other mind and body benefits realized when we remove alcohol from the equation.

She completed Whole30 this past January and made a connection between how excessive alcohol intake affects anxiety, panic attacks, strength during workouts and productivity.

But the 30 days I spent going out less, making plans with friends to do things other than drink or meeting friends who were drinking and choosing not to drink myself were illuminating. I suddenly had more time to read, more time to watch movies, more time to be alone in my thoughts and as a result, more time to be comfortable with hearing them.

And while she admits that she isn’t interested in denying the occasional fancy cocktail or glass of red wine she enjoys, this experience has made her more mindful about her drinking choices - and not just drinking “just to drink.” I love these stories. Everyone’s experience with alcohol is different - but I believe there are tremendous benefits that can be realized by anyone who takes a break. What do you think?

Feature on Euphoric - celebrating alcohol-free stories!

Have you met Karolina at Euphoric? She is doing so many awesome things to celebrate the alcohol-free lifestyle - through a variety of channels, including a podcast, blog, alcohol-free drink recipes and more.

Her words and experience are deeply inspiring and there really is a euphoric feeling to this life that cannot be matched with anything in a bottle.

I’m so honored that she has included an interview with me in her Our Stories section. I’d love for you to check it out and let me know what you think! xo Kim

Same circumstances, different response!

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Same circumstances - different response = CRUCIAL when it comes to seeing our own personal growth and development.

I want to share a text from a friend the other week:

I just wanted to let you know you have inspired me. DS has been sick all week. DH and I are in a huge fight. Been juggling kids, doctors appointments, work, etc.

Normally I would booze it every night to deal with the stress. But I haven't! I'm like you know what, this is life and drinking wine all night isn’t going to change the fact that all this sucks. It will get better and I need to remember that instead of focusing on the negative.


It makes my heart so happy - not that she chose not to drink alcohol when she was stressed. She’s an adult and can drink whenever she wants!

It’s just that it’s nice to have more conversations about the fact that it’s more than ok - and healthy and normal - to not meet every situation with a drink in our hands. 


That alcohol doesn’t always have to be the “go to solution” for the end of every bad day (or good day or boring day or sad day or frustrating day). We can find other ways to navigate all the ups and downs and in betweens that life has to offer.

Start enjoying YOU

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Well that didn’t take long. The shiny new goals, crisp and clean calendar pages and promise of new ways of living have started to wear off and fade.

And it’s no surprise to me! While secretly I had hoped that the excitement of a new year would hang on for just a big longer, this is just a good reminder to me that there is no magic connected with the January 1 date. We have the chance to start over or improve ourselves at any given moment.

I get caught up in a New Year, A New You! messaging. I imagine myself being a completely perfect, shining soul beginning promptly at 12:01 a.m. on January 1 - but by 9:30 that same morning, I’ve already lost my temper (broke my I’m a patient person resolution), had milk with my coffee (broke my Whole 30 resolution) and have complained about something that doesn’t warrant complaining about (broke my I am brilliantly and abundantly grateful resolution).

I have been battling a cold for the last few days (woe is me!) and I’ve been in a funk.

  • I haven’t been writing in my gratitude journal

  • haven’t been meditating

  • haven’t been reading my daily devotionals

And I KNOW that all these things help improve my outlook on life, help me improve my perspective. So this morning (after a fitful night’s sleep on cough medicine and stuffy sinuses), I woke up and told myself,

You have the power to make this day whatever you want it to be.

  • So, I wrote in my gratitude journal.

  • I prayed. I prayed with thankfulness but also asked God to help me with my negative thought patterns

  • I meditated and envisioned a bright light white surrounding me with peace and positivity

  • I went for a walk

  • I read my devotional

And I feel a lot better. Today’s devotional encouraged me to “Start Enjoying You.”

This is so timely and always a great reminder that we shouldn’t set our hopes, happiness and heavenly sights on the end goal. I see my children get a new toy - and for the next 30 minutes they are in heaven. They are happy and easily entertained. But just as easily as that joy comes, so does boredom of the new, shiny object.

So it’s a great reminder to me to enjoy me today! I can strive to be a better person. I can strive to accomplish great goals but I must find content with myself in the day to day journey - rather than chasing bright and shiny objects and depending on them to make me happy.

Just wanted to share. xo Kim

Reader Feedback on RESET

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I’ve been doing a happy dance on the great feedback I’m receiving from people who have been going through my January RESET program!

When creating the content, it was my desire to help women who wanted to break free from the drinking cycle - to realize their goals through more motivation, inspiration and energy - with daily inspiration on how to embrace an alcohol free lifestyle.

I wanted to share some feedback I receive from someone who signed up for the course and is experiencing fantastic results! :) xox Kim


Hi Kim, I have been going through your content and I am proud to say I am committed to Dry January and even on just day 3, I feel so good about my decision.

Your page was a sign for good change in my life and for the first time ever I am excited about being sober instead of dreading the "will I ever have fun" "how can I relax" bullshit.


Hi Kim, I just wanted to share a huge win with you. Last night my boyfriend and I said we were going to get up at 6:30 a.m. to workout before we continue our house hunting journey. We say this every single Friday night. When we were drinking, we strangely enough didn’t usually drink on Friday nights....but we did the majority of the rest of the week, so our bodies were still feeling pretty crappy all of the time.

This week we've been free of alcohol and for the first time in at least 6 months, we actually got up and did our workout. And showered, made breakfast and I even did my hair!---all before 8:15am!

This wouldn't have been possible if we had been drinking this week and I'm just so darn grateful that I found some communities on IG, especially yours. My mindset is SO DIFFERENT this time around and I think that's from seeing all of the stories and advice that isn’t coming from an AA meeting. Not knocking AA, but it never worked for me and usually just irritated me and then I would say, screw it and get some IPAs. No more. It doesn’t even sound good. Thanks for reading this rambling thank you note! Have a fantastic Saturday!


I asked the this beautiful woman for any advise she had to share with others, and here are a few things she wanted to share with YOU!

  • Honestly, one of the biggest motivators for me right now is we got a Nespresso machine for Christmas and I am still so excited about it that I find the idea of drinking the night before will ruin my beautiful, fancy cup of coffee.

  • I also just want more out of my life and I wake up and say "picture your highest self and then show up as her."

  • Also--we just put an offer in on a house that we are 98% positive will get accepted and I had ZERO desire to go grab a bottle of champagne. I want to enjoy this and not forget any details, or worse, pay too much! Hope this is helpful!

Headed down memory lane

The Bald Head Island Incident

Several years ago my husband and I traveled to Bald Head Island in North Carolina for a long weekend to celebrate a friend’s wedding.

We rented a house on the small island with 10 other friends.

I’m drinking water in this picture - because the night before I went crazy with friends I hadn’t seen in a long time.

We stayed up ALL night drinking. And FYI I have a super fun feature about myself that, the more I drink, the louder and nasally I get.

We were so loud we kept one of our other friends - who had just had a baby several months earlier and was looking forward to her first trip out of town without the baby - awake all night. 

She was planning on a few good nights of sleep, and we were so loud talking nonsense and listening to music at decibel 22 that she couldn’t get to sleep,We didn’t even realize we were being so loud.

She was so pissed the next day and I pretty much hid from her during ALL the weekend activities.

Anyway, I tried to smile through everything the next day but I felt so unbelievably sick and tired.

I finally gave up early in the evening - while everyone else was at another rental house watching football and having fun - and took a golf cart back to where we were staying. 

I offered to take a friend’s son back who was about 12 at the time.

The island is not hard to navigate - but I’m terrible with directions on a good day. So you can imagine my horror when the boy told me that we had just passed by the house we just left.

I was so HUNG that I had driven in a complete circle and didn’t even notice. (Imagine how humbling it is to receive directional advice from a little boy on a tiny island which boasts a population of less than 300 people!)

UGH

It was a great weekend trip overall. But let’s be honest, I wish I hadn’t made myself so sick that I could have enjoyed the next day. I wish I hadn’t been so rude to piss off a friend. I wish I hadn’t bailed the next day and gotten schooled by a kid. Just a reminder that there may be a story you don’t know about behind the smile in the picture. xx Kim

About last night....New Year ✨2019✨- reader submitted essay

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The following was submitted by a reader - who has turned into a friend. While she isn’t interested in sharing her thoughts publicly on a blog or social channel (not yet, at least!), she has found writing and journaling as an enjoyable activity, particularly as it pertains to sobriety or embracing an alcohol-free lifestyle.

Here are her words. I hope they can reach someone who needs to read this right now. xoxo Kim


Last night was NYE. My kids and hubby always stay up until midnight. I haven’t made it in the last 9+ years, because I was always drunk.

I would start drinking wine while cooking dinner - and would drink and drink, most likely having 1+ bottles of wine by myself - hoping that no one would notice:

  • my sloppy-ness

  • my slurred speech

  • my lack of awareness to play a game

  • my extra-loud-obnoxious-laugh

UGH

We’d celebrate the east coast New Years, kiss, and I’d stumble off to bed, fuzzy headed. I’d awake at midnight to the sound of fireworks, my kids giddy with excitement and I’d bounce out of bed to yell, “Happy New Year!” with them,  knowing that I missed most of the night.

I missed the real count down, the real enthusiastic screams, the real start to the New Year.

I’d crawl into bed, disappointed and a bit sad that I missed out. Again. 

So last night....

My kiddos and hubby were making their plans to stay up until midnight, playing Mario Cart, watching TV shows and playing games.

I had planned on going to bed just after 9 p.m. As in the past I never stayed up, BUT...instead, I stayed up with them until midnight. The night was pretty uneventful and my kids were exhausted, but we rang in the new year together - with big fat kisses and hugs, a few blow horns and then I went straight to bed.

I tucked them in and I listened to the fireworks and thought about how wonderful life can be without wine.

How I can really enjoy all these magical moments and see all the little and big details of my life - and of theirs - and, most importantly, remember it all.

This morning I woke up, feeling grateful and excited.

I’m starting the New Year, clear-headed, oh so grateful, and my heart is full! Happy 2019!!


I tucked them in and I listened to the fireworks and thought about how wonderful life can be without wine.

7 tips for a successful Dry January

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Well happy New Year! Whew, where did 2018 go?

No matter, we’re moving onward and upwards to have the best year EVER. If you’re thinking of binning the booze during January - but not sure where to start, I have a few tips for you. These have helped me SO much over the last six months to develop good habits when it comes to navigating social situations, stressful days and everything in between.

  1. Be Prepared - behind every great goal there is a well, thought out plan that helps you stay on track. The best parallel I can think of is meal planning. If you’ve bought your groceries, downloaded your recipes and mapped out what you’re having for breakfast, lunch and dinner, then you’re well on your way to following through on your goal of cooking more at home.

    In terms of Dry January, think about:

    • how you will tell others you are not drinking, and practice saying it out loud.

    • how you will handle a stressful day or celebration ahead of time - so you aren’t surprised when that day comes during your challenge

    • other things you enjoy for self-care and stress management. Alcohol is a huge reason to squash emotions and pass the time - so what will you replace that with?

  2. Research non-alcoholic drinks and have fun testing recipes. I’ve really enjoyed trying new teas, coffee drinks and experimenting with simple syrups and mineral water. There is no excuse for someone saying “I don’t know what I will drink” - there are plenty of options these days!

  3. Plan ahead when attending an event. Again, this goes back to being prepared and putting a lot of thought into how you will handle situations during the month of January.

    • Think about what you will order ahead of time (and practice saying it out loud)

    • Imagine who you are excited to see or what experience you will relish in as a sober, clear-minded individual

    • If you are going to a friend's house or hosting your own event, bring your own mixers or have ingredients on hand to create a fun drink.

  4. Visualize yourself succeeding and think about what that looks like.

    • What does success look like for you?

    • Imagine yourself enjoying your day will less anxiety, better health, making good decisions about food choices, waking up full of energy or improving the relationships around you - all with your new and sassy sober self!

  5. Change your perspective: Don't think of yourself as losing alcohol, but as gaining something else (energy, clear skin, clear mind, etc). Don’t think of Dry January as something you have to do, view it as a fun, adventurous journey where you are adding to your quality of life and learning new things about yourself along the way!

  6. Create distractions: If you're giving up alcohol for a month, use that time to do something new, like trying a new fitness class or cooking a new recipe. I cannot tell you how many books I’ve been able to read over the past few months, simply because I’m not passing out after a few glasses of wine at 8 p.m. (I even learned how to create an online course during this time!!!!)

  7. Find a support network or an accountability partner:

    • Instagram and Facebook offer a community of people sharing their own sober journeys.

    • Pinterest provides a lot of sober inspiration.

    • Check out a local meeting to connect with others in person.

    • Or write out what you're thinking and feeling. There is so much power in keeping a journal and getting those feelings out on paper!

Did I leave anything out? My wish for you in the New Year is that - if you are struggling with alcohol or if you are wanting to experience life without reaching for a glass of wine for every occasion - you find the support, encouragement, inspiration and motivation you need. All the best. xox Kim

Goal planning and January RESET alcohol-free challenge

with my Powersheets!

with my Powersheets!


This time last year I was filling out a goal planner (Lara Casey’s #Powersheets to be exact!).

In the planning, she asks you to do a Cultivated Life Evaluation, where you look at key categories in your life (faith, fitness, family, work, free time, finances and friends).

Y’all. I’m here to tell you trust alcohol was negatively affecting EVERY SINGLE AREA - some more than others.

I had wanted to live an alcohol free lifestyle leading up to this (or at least try it for an extended timeframe) but this was the catalyst I needed.

To see these major categories in front of me -that are so crucial to a quality of life - that could be changed so dramatically over one single decision.

I wasn’t successful right off the bat. But I built off little successes and learning lessons throughout the year - until it finally stuck in July for good.

If you are looking to enjoy, embrace and rock an alcohol free lifestyle, this blog and the online sober community in general is a great place to start!

If you feel like you need a little more support, then I invite you to join me on the 30-day reset challenge I’ve created that begins TOMORROW!

Each day you’ll receive an email with inspiration and a lesson with action steps on how to complete the day’s assignment. You’ll also receive a daily mantra and additional links for support, as well as access to a Private Facebook group where you can interact with other members.

I’ll also host group calls during the month of January. Happy New Year, everyone! Kim

P.S. Don’t forget to click here if you’re ready to RESET your relationship with alcohol. The 30-day online program is only $29!


Ready to RESET your relationship with alcohol?

Achieve your wellness goals. Live your dream.

Embrace and enjoy an alcohol-free lifestyle during the 30-day RESET program  

The holidays always take the idea of excess to a new level. Perhaps you spent too much, ate too much, drank too much or did a combination of all the above.

"In the New Year, I'll change my ways," you've said - envisioning your improved diet consisting only of whole foods, your ambitious fitness routine or your new business idea finally coming to fruition.  

Fortunately, there's one thing you can eliminate in January that will make realizing ALL of your other goals easier: RESETING your relationship with alcohol. By embracing an alcohol-free lifestyle during the month of January, you'll use the benefits of more energy, increased productivity, as well as more time and money.

My new online course - RESET - is designed to provide you with daily inspiration, mindfulness techniques and tips to navigate any social setting that will help you enjoy an alcohol-free January. 

Read on below for a look at what I'll teach you.

WANT TO BE THE FIRST TO GET IN ON THIS? 

You're in luck! I'm letting the first 50 students in for $29. 

(Normal price is $149) 

RESERVE YOUR SPOT

Here's a sneak peak of what I'll be teaching...

DAY ONE  

Be the author of your own success story.

With a strong vision, you'll be able to accomplish your goals - while also realizing that you're making progress! Day 1 is dedicated to getting your goals out on paper, while defining what success looks like to YOU.

DAY TWO  

Accountability 

In this lesson, I'm pulling back the curtain on how accountability helped propel me to success - both personally and professionally - and how you can use this powerful tool to enjoy a dry January!

DAY THREE  

The Power of Gratitude  

This goes way beyond saying "thanks" when you get something you asked for. I'll share seven scientifically proven benefits of gratitude that will encourage you to start your own gratitidue practice.

DAY FOUR  

How to prepare for social situations

Nervous about networking, socializing or interacting with your friends, colleagues and family without depending on alcohol to get you through? Here's the truth: most of us feel weird about this—until we learn a few important tricks and the power of being prepared.

DAY FIVE

Break out of your identity box  

This lesson is addresses the importance of how to identify self-limiting beliefs or negative thought patterns and REPLACE them with truths about yourself. This activity is crucial to living a life full of positivity and possibility!  

Sign up here to reserve your spot for only $29.99 and get ready to RESET beginning January 1!

The day mommy gave up wine

Meet our puppy Elvis (named after Elvis Presley, of course!). The kids love listening to his music and - well, he loves playing in the mud….

DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR?

As a mother of young children, I got in a bad habit.

  • A habit where I poured a glass of wine when the kids started crying.

  • A habit where I opened a bottle of Chardonnay after enduring a series of temper tantrums between my twin boy toddlers.

  • A habit where I felt I deserved a treat after doing three loads of laundry, two loads of dishes, wiping two bottoms and house training our eight-week old puppy, Elvis.

  • A habit where every time I met with a mom friend, I suggested we commiserate over wine.

I realized one day that I had zero - ZERO POINT ZERO! (this is a Howard Stern reference, not an Animal House reference, FYI) - skills other than drinking wine to relieve my stress.

  • (P.S. I realize I am seriously blessed but sometimes it DOES get stressful raising twin boys, a puppy and juggling two small businesses!).

    I started to wonder what would happen if I began adding other tools to the toolbox when I was stressed??

  • What if I learned to cope with uncomfortable emotions without reaching for wine?

  • What would that look like?

So fast forward about six months to the present day. I have been working hard to add new tools to my toolbox. To feel ALL THE FEELS. And to deal with everyday stressors without just drowning them in craptastic Cabernet.

Today I want to share FIVE tips that will help during stressful moments.

I actually used these techniques - including a breathing, grounding and gratitude exercise - TODAY when the puppy bit through my styrofoam cup FULL of Chick-Fil-a Diet Lemonade and spilled it everywhere. (I didn’t take a picture of that but thought the muddy Elvis picture would be a good substitute!).

Get INSTANT ACCESS to full details here: These five tried and true tips REALLY do work in a pinch and are all natural and alcohol free!

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Teetotal Road Trip Success

Sober Road Trip adventure

We took a road trip with the boys this weekend.

The hotel room brought a courtesy bottle of champagne up after we checked in.

My husband doesn’t drink champagne and I didn’t want it.

I can’t believe I’m typing this but I DIDN’T WANT THE CHAMPAGNE AT ALL!

  • The popping of the cork

  • The fizzy bubbles

  • The fancy champagne flutes

It didn’t strike an urge for me like it normally would. I didn’t romanticize it at all.

It feels SO good to pass up on stuff like that.

A year ago I would have glugged it ALL down, which would have started a downward spiral of me wanting more and more and more to drink.

Road trips are meant for overindulging, right?!

And then, like clockwork, I would have spontaneously started a fight with my husband about an hour and a half after my last drink. The night would have gone down in flames, and I would have probably woken up to a cold shoulder and the dreaded question:

Do you want to apologize for what you said last night? UGH THE WORST

The kids woke up at 6 a.m. - because of course they did! They were super stoked because it snowed like crazy where we were staying. And I was - for the most part - more than ready to start the day with them.

If you are struggling, please know that it takes time to rewire your brain from thinking you need alcohol at every turn. Be patient with yourself and immerse yourself in sober stories and read as much as you can about how much someone’s life changes the instant they decide not to give so much power to alcohol. It can happen. xoxo

I drank as a mom - reader submitted story

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One of the best things about starting this 100 Days of Sober page is that I’m able to connect with so many people out there just like me. People out there who are questioning their relationship with alcohol and the role it plays in their lives.

I have become friends with someone who is a reader of the blog. While she wishes to remain anonymous, she has a powerful message to share.

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I'm a Mom of two wonderful and amazing kids. They are the best thing that has ever happened to me!  

I'm a mom who once drank in front of her kids, not realizing the depths of this problem, the negative effects it had on me, and the example that I was setting.

Kids are little sponges, seeing all the good and bad. They see everything, regardless of age.

When my kids were younger, they'd play the game “restaurant,” - and on the menu was always beer and wine.  I once thought this was funny and cute and have an Instagram pic of my daughters’ “drink menu,” listing all types of beers and wines.

Ugh. When they got older, I knew they were watching, they see everything. 

A little over a year ago, we were having friends over. The kids were all playing and the adults were drinking, wine was flowing.  I don't remember ever feeling that intoxicated, but I was. When everyone left, I went to put the kids to bed, and I ended up passing out in my bed with all my clothes and makeup still on. IN FRONT OF MY KIDS. 

My son told my husband that he was worried about me and he cried himself to sleep. (my husband told me all this the next morning).  All of this makes me cringe. The next morning, I apologized to my kids. I told my husband that I was taking ANOTHER break from drinking, which was not my last break by the way.  I know that my kids will always remember that night, the night their mom was so drunk she just straight up passed out in front of them. 

Drinking starts off to be so fun and harmless, but this story right here is full of pain, shame, and utter sadness. BUT, now I no longer have to lurk in shame over past mistakes.  They can see a mom who is working on making better choices and trying to be the best possible version of herself. I'm choosing this way of life for me, but also for them.  They are and will continue to be one of the biggest reasons for me to not drink.  And that makes me feel good!

Download your free Holiday Survival Kit!

One of the most popular questions I receive is about surviving the holidays, while also embracing an alcohol-free lifestyle!

I want you to know it’s entirely possible to have a great time, enjoy friends and family - without alcohol. It’s even better because you aren’t feeling bloated, fatigued, irritable and full of regret after indulging in too much eggnog!

My readers have a variety of reasons for perhaps wanting to avoid alcohol for a while - even during the holidays. If you’re interested in an alcohol-free challenge - but want to know how to navigate holiday parties, sign up to receive INSTANT ACCESS to this Holiday Survival Guide that shares tips to stay alcohol free during the holiday season so you can get a jump start on your New Year’s Resolutions!

These are the lies I told myself + the truths that shattered them

In the car on the way to my first ever Podcast Interview - Renting Sobriety
  • You don’t know what you’re doing

  • You’re wearing too much makeup

  • No one wants to hear what you have to say

  • You’re lost

These are some of the lies I told myself on Saturday while driving to my first ever podcast interview with Renting Sobriety. (Here is the link to the podcast if you want to take a listen!) None of them were true (except for the lost part. I did get lost for a hot second).

Whenever I’m doing something I’m not used to doing or am not comfortable with, I tell myself lies to try to talk myself out of doing that one thing. Do you do the same?

I was nervous and unsure of the experience. I almost chickened out. I am notoriously camera shy and did not know how I would do being interviewed by two people I had never met.

But instead of listening to those lies, I replaced them. Replaced them with positivity and affirmations.

  • I have a story to share

  • I have a message of hope

  • My story is resonating with people out there

  • This interview could reach one person who is caught in a cycle of addiction

  • You are lost - but you will figure it out and it will all be good

I think the lies we tell ourselves are the single most damaging thoughts we have. But you know what? It’s entirely possible to cancel out all these self-limiting beliefs. Recognize these untruths and flood them with positivity.

Once the headphones were on and I started talking with Tyler and Casey, it was like I had known them for years. I really enjoyed the conversation and learning more about them in the process of sharing my story.

THANK YOU to Renting Sobriety for having me on.

Here is the link to the entire interview if you’re interested.

Takeaway? If you are nervous about something, give yourself a little pep talk and push through the uncomfortableness. It could be an awesome experience that you would otherwise miss. And even if you don’t like it, at least you can say you lived to tell the tale. What thoughts are holding you back?

Euphoric: The Podcast

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One of the things that helped me out in the first 30 - 90 days - and still inspires me to continue on the path of sobriety, was/is listening to people who talk about the many benefits of embracing an alcohol-free lifestyle.

And honestly, that’s why I love being on Instagram so much - because it connects me with so many likeminded individuals who view alcohol in a different perspective. Most of my friends and family drink - which is totally fine! - I was the one who made the decision to remove alcohol from my life. But, that means I do have to go on places like Instagram, podcasts and blogs to connect with others who are trying to achieve sobriety.

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And that brings me to a podcast I recently listened to: Episode 2 of Euphoric, which addresses community. 

Every time you let yourself down you chip away at your self trust.
— Euphoric: The Podcast

It’s so inspirational! @karolinarzad and @dbrn did a great job addressing:

  • The wonderful new life you can explore, while benefiting from the MANY positive aspects of sobriety

  • The fabulously supportive community that comes along with decision when you focus on achieving an alcohol-free lifestyle.

Karolina and Danielle are easy and entertaining to listen to. Have you listened to their first or second episode? If you check it out, be sure to let me know what you think!

If I can quit drinking, I can do anything. (..) What else am I capable of? 
— Euphoric: The Podcast

Hang on...it feels like freedom

Quote courtesy of  Sober Mom Tribe

Quote courtesy of Sober Mom Tribe

Those who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream only by night
— Edgar Allan Poe
Picture from a recent drive in the Blue Ridge Mountains

Picture from a recent drive in the Blue Ridge Mountains

Last night I found myself feeling SO grateful to just sip on some hot tea and cuddle up with the dog while reading and daydreaming before bed.

My husband had a beer with dinner and I had some mineral water and I just felt so free to not feel like I NEEDED a drink with dinner.

Several months ago, if I was eating dinner (which I do 💯 percent of the time) it was accompanied by at least two glasses of wine 💯 percent of the time.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with having beer or wine with dinner - but I felt there was something wrong with me feeling I NEEDED a drink to accompany:

  • EVERY dinner

  • every event

  • every celebration

  • every weekend night

  • every weeknight.

    And I’m just so happy I am in a different place. It’s very freeing - and I wish it for everyone who is looking for a break from alcohol. Do you have any questions for me? I’d love to continue the conversation, Kim

30-Day Sobriety Solution + The Time Travel Technique!

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Hi everyone! Happy Monday and Day 29 of Sober October.

I apologize for being absent for the last few days. This weekend I celebrated my 11th wedding anniversary! I had every intention of drafting emails and sending them over the weekend - but I accidentally left my computer at home.

I guess it was a divine intervention to just relax and enjoy the beautiful area of Asheville with my husband and friends (who were also celebrating their anniversary!).

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Celebrating our 11th wedding anniversary in Asheville, NC

Anyway, on the ride up there I was emailing back and forth with Martha, a participant of Sober October, and she mentioned that she had completed the 30-day sobriety solution earlier this year. I had never heard of this book or program - so, of course, purchased it over the weekend. I love trying new approaches and going through new programs, especially as they address dealing with alcohol.


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Day 1 addresses the importance of journaling, accepting your responsibility for your responses to events (see equation below) while also completing the Time Travel Technique. It's so interesting and I loved completing it!

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Your reaction to every event controls the outcome. Focus on creating a new response for every event!

I know if I continued down the path of regular drinking, in five years time I would still be tired, weathered looking, disappointed in myself for not trying hard enough to reach my goals of embracing society. Alternatively, if I continue on a path of making good decisions surrounding alcohol (which will prevent me to spiraling back to drinking every day and for every reason), my skin will continue to improve, I will make better decisions to care for my body - and I will have the energy, love and confidence to be a better parent, wife and friend. Additionally, I know that I will reach my goals of becoming an author, motivational speaker, well-known parent and mommy blogger and part of a community that promotes the benefits of sobriety and embracing an alcohol-free lifestyle.

If you try the Time Travel Technique (from the public YouTube Video), let me know what you think! Have a great Monday! xoxo Kim

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Real, Raw, Hard Honesty - a reader question answered (Day 25: Sober October)

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I have had a couple of topics for today swirling around - but then I got the following question:

"So I had every intention in doing Sober October - I’ve done so many breaks before, but this one has been unbelievably hard. (...) The frustration is the hardest and also thinking about the commitment or lack of one. Would love to hear about real, raw, hard, honesty. How many breaks do you think you did before you committed to this?"

So, here is my response. It's pretty long but I think an accurate description of my journey to achieve an alcohol lifestyle over the last year.

Honestly, I could never string any time together. It's a bit blurry - I didn't pay attention that much because I never thought I would get that far.

Last September/October I started getting serious about trying to quit drinking. I was drinking every day - probably a bottle or more a night and over the weekend could probably not keep track.

I think in September I may have gone 8 days - which was a freaking MIRACLE for me. I had signed up for This Naked Mind Alcohol Experiment. It was a free thing I saw on FB so I started to think about alcohol in a different way than ever before.

BEFORE, I thought wine and beer was semi-healthy for me but I knew it was making me tired, irritable, bloated and stressed out. And, if I took a few days off, I would feel great and then think I could control myself with one or two glasses of wine. And, I could maybe for a few days - but then I would start drinking more and more and pouring wine earlier and earlier. It just always came back harder and harder. And drinking wasn't fun for me.

Last October, I signed up to do Sober October with James Swanwick and I may have gone 13 days? And THAT was a freaking miracle! And after that I think I didn't try too hard to quit drinking. I was drinking less (because I had learned so much about what alcohol did to me) but still drank heavily over the holidays. My husband and I are huge red wine lovers and, during the holidays, we always go pretty hard. We'll split two bottles of wine each night and then get into the beer. I'm nervous for the holidays because it's always when I let loose.

By January, I had signed up for a half-marathon in March because I needed to focus on something healthy. I was so disgusted with myself for drinking and eating like crap for weeks on end. I was just shoving everything in my mouth it felt like.

AND THEN, I would go maybe a few days here and there. I ran the half marathon in March. And I just saw the year laid out before me just like every other year and really REALLY wanted to change.

I hated one of my clients. I was so frustrated and didn't feel grateful for ANYTHING in my life. And I knew it was alcohol.

So maybe in May (?) I started the 100 Day account. I wanted to put it out there to document things and see if I could connect with anyone else. And I slipped up, too. But I kept getting tired of apologizing to the IG followers and on my newly created blog. Like, "I had a beer again. I am at Day 1 again." And then I guess it just stuck? I kind of got sick of MYSELF for making excuses all the time and just not sticking to what I promised.

I have bad days - today, for example. :-) I have thought about drinking ALL DAY and I don't know if it gets better. I hear it does.

The only thing that keeps me from drinking is I know I won't sleep.

  • I know I will feel like crap.

  • I know I will disappoint myself AGAIN.

  • I know I will break out and feel even WORSE than I do now.

  • It won't make my day better.

  • It won't make my kids less whiny.

  • I will numb out for a bit but I will have to deal with it all later on.

The last time I drank I drank one bottle of red wine and almost a bottle of white. It was like I was trying to get myself sick so I could remind myself why. I know that sounds so bad. But I was SO sick the next day. I just try to think of that and psych myself out.

Anyway, raw and honest? If you want it, you will find a WAY to fight through it eventually. If you don't, there will always be an EXCUSE (from Rachel Hollis).

  • For the longest time, I thought I wanted to be sober, but I didn't want to tough it out at 5 p.m.

  • For the longest time, I wanted to be alcohol free, but I didn't want to feel uncomfortable around my friends and family.

  • For the longest time, I wanted to see if I could do it - but I didn't want to change my habits.

I hope this makes sense or resonates with you a little (I hope ALOT!). I also used to envy those who had gone a while without alcohol and I finally DECIDED that I AM one of those people and I COULD do it. I think of Gabrielle Bernstein or Clare Pooley or Bradley Cooper or Robert Downey Jr. Those are all bad ass people who choose not to drink. Why can't I be that way?

O.K. So, this weekend is our 11th anniversary and we are going to Asheville to celebrate. I am SO fretting it because I know I will romanticize the role wine plays and want to indulge. But it's conversations like these that keeps me from going back....what do you think? :)

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Q&A with Karolina from Euphoric Alcohol Free (Day 24: Sober October!)

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Today I'm really excited to share a Q&A with Karolina Rzadkowlolska!

Karolina is a wellness blogger who shares the joys of an alcohol-free lifestyle with her audience. Based in San Diego, she provides alternative drink ideas and is currently writing a book about the many benefits sobriety brings.

Today, she's sharing her story on how she found so much happiness once she left alcohol behind. She's been featured on Tell Better Stories AND Greatist and I am so thankful that she agreed to share:

  • The physical, spiritual and emotional benefits she experiences by choosing to lead a sober life

  • Why self-actualization is one of the best pieces of being alcohol free

  • Some soft cocktail (mocktail or sans cocktail!) recipes for autumn

In this Q&A she addresses the "moderation illusion" that many of us have when trying to limit our alcohol intake and describes her foray into an alcohol-free lifestyle as a "health and soul-conscious decision" - which I LOVE.


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You can read the full interview here.

I'd love to hear what you think! And again, many thanks to Karolina for participating in this Sober October challenge.

WANT MORE?

  1. Click here to see three autumn-inspired soft cocktail options, courtesy of Karolina

  2. Check out Karolina's tips on how to "Rock a Party Sober"

  3. Learn more about Karolina and upcoming news at euphoricaf.com or on Instagram at @karolinarzad

  4. Join the 100 Days VIP Community (a Private Facebook page) to connect with others and share your successes and challenges

  5. Happy Day 24 of Sober October!