Teetotal Road Trip Success

Sober Road Trip adventure

We took a road trip with the boys this weekend.

The hotel room brought a courtesy bottle of champagne up after we checked in.

My husband doesn’t drink champagne and I didn’t want it.

I can’t believe I’m typing this but I DIDN’T WANT THE CHAMPAGNE AT ALL!

  • The popping of the cork

  • The fizzy bubbles

  • The fancy champagne flutes

It didn’t strike an urge for me like it normally would. I didn’t romanticize it at all.

It feels SO good to pass up on stuff like that.

A year ago I would have glugged it ALL down, which would have started a downward spiral of me wanting more and more and more to drink.

Road trips are meant for overindulging, right?!

And then, like clockwork, I would have spontaneously started a fight with my husband about an hour and a half after my last drink. The night would have gone down in flames, and I would have probably woken up to a cold shoulder and the dreaded question:

Do you want to apologize for what you said last night? UGH THE WORST

The kids woke up at 6 a.m. - because of course they did! They were super stoked because it snowed like crazy where we were staying. And I was - for the most part - more than ready to start the day with them.

If you are struggling, please know that it takes time to rewire your brain from thinking you need alcohol at every turn. Be patient with yourself and immerse yourself in sober stories and read as much as you can about how much someone’s life changes the instant they decide not to give so much power to alcohol. It can happen. xoxo

I drank as a mom - reader submitted story

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One of the best things about starting this 100 Days of Sober page is that I’m able to connect with so many people out there just like me. People out there who are questioning their relationship with alcohol and the role it plays in their lives.

I have become friends with someone who is a reader of the blog. While she wishes to remain anonymous, she has a powerful message to share.

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I'm a Mom of two wonderful and amazing kids. They are the best thing that has ever happened to me!  

I'm a mom who once drank in front of her kids, not realizing the depths of this problem, the negative effects it had on me, and the example that I was setting.

Kids are little sponges, seeing all the good and bad. They see everything, regardless of age.

When my kids were younger, they'd play the game “restaurant,” - and on the menu was always beer and wine.  I once thought this was funny and cute and have an Instagram pic of my daughters’ “drink menu,” listing all types of beers and wines.

Ugh. When they got older, I knew they were watching, they see everything. 

A little over a year ago, we were having friends over. The kids were all playing and the adults were drinking, wine was flowing.  I don't remember ever feeling that intoxicated, but I was. When everyone left, I went to put the kids to bed, and I ended up passing out in my bed with all my clothes and makeup still on. IN FRONT OF MY KIDS. 

My son told my husband that he was worried about me and he cried himself to sleep. (my husband told me all this the next morning).  All of this makes me cringe. The next morning, I apologized to my kids. I told my husband that I was taking ANOTHER break from drinking, which was not my last break by the way.  I know that my kids will always remember that night, the night their mom was so drunk she just straight up passed out in front of them. 

Drinking starts off to be so fun and harmless, but this story right here is full of pain, shame, and utter sadness. BUT, now I no longer have to lurk in shame over past mistakes.  They can see a mom who is working on making better choices and trying to be the best possible version of herself. I'm choosing this way of life for me, but also for them.  They are and will continue to be one of the biggest reasons for me to not drink.  And that makes me feel good!

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One of the most popular questions I receive is about surviving the holidays, while also embracing an alcohol-free lifestyle!

I want you to know it’s entirely possible to have a great time, enjoy friends and family - without alcohol. It’s even better because you aren’t feeling bloated, fatigued, irritable and full of regret after indulging in too much eggnog!

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These are the lies I told myself + the truths that shattered them

In the car on the way to my first ever Podcast Interview - Renting Sobriety
  • You don’t know what you’re doing

  • You’re wearing too much makeup

  • No one wants to hear what you have to say

  • You’re lost

These are some of the lies I told myself on Saturday while driving to my first ever podcast interview with Renting Sobriety. (Here is the link to the podcast if you want to take a listen!) None of them were true (except for the lost part. I did get lost for a hot second).

Whenever I’m doing something I’m not used to doing or am not comfortable with, I tell myself lies to try to talk myself out of doing that one thing. Do you do the same?

I was nervous and unsure of the experience. I almost chickened out. I am notoriously camera shy and did not know how I would do being interviewed by two people I had never met.

But instead of listening to those lies, I replaced them. Replaced them with positivity and affirmations.

  • I have a story to share

  • I have a message of hope

  • My story is resonating with people out there

  • This interview could reach one person who is caught in a cycle of addiction

  • You are lost - but you will figure it out and it will all be good

I think the lies we tell ourselves are the single most damaging thoughts we have. But you know what? It’s entirely possible to cancel out all these self-limiting beliefs. Recognize these untruths and flood them with positivity.

Once the headphones were on and I started talking with Tyler and Casey, it was like I had known them for years. I really enjoyed the conversation and learning more about them in the process of sharing my story.

THANK YOU to Renting Sobriety for having me on.

Here is the link to the entire interview if you’re interested.

Takeaway? If you are nervous about something, give yourself a little pep talk and push through the uncomfortableness. It could be an awesome experience that you would otherwise miss. And even if you don’t like it, at least you can say you lived to tell the tale. What thoughts are holding you back?

Euphoric: The Podcast

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One of the things that helped me out in the first 30 - 90 days - and still inspires me to continue on the path of sobriety, was/is listening to people who talk about the many benefits of embracing an alcohol-free lifestyle.

And honestly, that’s why I love being on Instagram so much - because it connects me with so many likeminded individuals who view alcohol in a different perspective. Most of my friends and family drink - which is totally fine! - I was the one who made the decision to remove alcohol from my life. But, that means I do have to go on places like Instagram, podcasts and blogs to connect with others who are trying to achieve sobriety.

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And that brings me to a podcast I recently listened to: Episode 2 of Euphoric, which addresses community. 

Every time you let yourself down you chip away at your self trust.
— Euphoric: The Podcast

It’s so inspirational! @karolinarzad and @dbrn did a great job addressing:

  • The wonderful new life you can explore, while benefiting from the MANY positive aspects of sobriety

  • The fabulously supportive community that comes along with decision when you focus on achieving an alcohol-free lifestyle.

Karolina and Danielle are easy and entertaining to listen to. Have you listened to their first or second episode? If you check it out, be sure to let me know what you think!

If I can quit drinking, I can do anything. (..) What else am I capable of? 
— Euphoric: The Podcast

Hang on...it feels like freedom

 Quote courtesy of  Sober Mom Tribe

Quote courtesy of Sober Mom Tribe

Those who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream only by night
— Edgar Allan Poe
 Picture from a recent drive in the Blue Ridge Mountains

Picture from a recent drive in the Blue Ridge Mountains

Last night I found myself feeling SO grateful to just sip on some hot tea and cuddle up with the dog while reading and daydreaming before bed.

My husband had a beer with dinner and I had some mineral water and I just felt so free to not feel like I NEEDED a drink with dinner.

Several months ago, if I was eating dinner (which I do 💯 percent of the time) it was accompanied by at least two glasses of wine 💯 percent of the time.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with having beer or wine with dinner - but I felt there was something wrong with me feeling I NEEDED a drink to accompany:

  • EVERY dinner

  • every event

  • every celebration

  • every weekend night

  • every weeknight.

    And I’m just so happy I am in a different place. It’s very freeing - and I wish it for everyone who is looking for a break from alcohol. Do you have any questions for me? I’d love to continue the conversation, Kim

30-Day Sobriety Solution + The Time Travel Technique!

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Hi everyone! Happy Monday and Day 29 of Sober October.

I apologize for being absent for the last few days. This weekend I celebrated my 11th wedding anniversary! I had every intention of drafting emails and sending them over the weekend - but I accidentally left my computer at home.

I guess it was a divine intervention to just relax and enjoy the beautiful area of Asheville with my husband and friends (who were also celebrating their anniversary!).

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Celebrating our 11th wedding anniversary in Asheville, NC

Anyway, on the ride up there I was emailing back and forth with Martha, a participant of Sober October, and she mentioned that she had completed the 30-day sobriety solution earlier this year. I had never heard of this book or program - so, of course, purchased it over the weekend. I love trying new approaches and going through new programs, especially as they address dealing with alcohol.


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Day 1 addresses the importance of journaling, accepting your responsibility for your responses to events (see equation below) while also completing the Time Travel Technique. It's so interesting and I loved completing it!

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Your reaction to every event controls the outcome. Focus on creating a new response for every event!

I know if I continued down the path of regular drinking, in five years time I would still be tired, weathered looking, disappointed in myself for not trying hard enough to reach my goals of embracing society. Alternatively, if I continue on a path of making good decisions surrounding alcohol (which will prevent me to spiraling back to drinking every day and for every reason), my skin will continue to improve, I will make better decisions to care for my body - and I will have the energy, love and confidence to be a better parent, wife and friend. Additionally, I know that I will reach my goals of becoming an author, motivational speaker, well-known parent and mommy blogger and part of a community that promotes the benefits of sobriety and embracing an alcohol-free lifestyle.

If you try the Time Travel Technique (from the public YouTube Video), let me know what you think! Have a great Monday! xoxo Kim

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Real, Raw, Hard Honesty - a reader question answered (Day 25: Sober October)

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I have had a couple of topics for today swirling around - but then I got the following question:

"So I had every intention in doing Sober October - I’ve done so many breaks before, but this one has been unbelievably hard. (...) The frustration is the hardest and also thinking about the commitment or lack of one. Would love to hear about real, raw, hard, honesty. How many breaks do you think you did before you committed to this?"

So, here is my response. It's pretty long but I think an accurate description of my journey to achieve an alcohol lifestyle over the last year.

Honestly, I could never string any time together. It's a bit blurry - I didn't pay attention that much because I never thought I would get that far.

Last September/October I started getting serious about trying to quit drinking. I was drinking every day - probably a bottle or more a night and over the weekend could probably not keep track.

I think in September I may have gone 8 days - which was a freaking MIRACLE for me. I had signed up for This Naked Mind Alcohol Experiment. It was a free thing I saw on FB so I started to think about alcohol in a different way than ever before.

BEFORE, I thought wine and beer was semi-healthy for me but I knew it was making me tired, irritable, bloated and stressed out. And, if I took a few days off, I would feel great and then think I could control myself with one or two glasses of wine. And, I could maybe for a few days - but then I would start drinking more and more and pouring wine earlier and earlier. It just always came back harder and harder. And drinking wasn't fun for me.

Last October, I signed up to do Sober October with James Swanwick and I may have gone 13 days? And THAT was a freaking miracle! And after that I think I didn't try too hard to quit drinking. I was drinking less (because I had learned so much about what alcohol did to me) but still drank heavily over the holidays. My husband and I are huge red wine lovers and, during the holidays, we always go pretty hard. We'll split two bottles of wine each night and then get into the beer. I'm nervous for the holidays because it's always when I let loose.

By January, I had signed up for a half-marathon in March because I needed to focus on something healthy. I was so disgusted with myself for drinking and eating like crap for weeks on end. I was just shoving everything in my mouth it felt like.

AND THEN, I would go maybe a few days here and there. I ran the half marathon in March. And I just saw the year laid out before me just like every other year and really REALLY wanted to change.

I hated one of my clients. I was so frustrated and didn't feel grateful for ANYTHING in my life. And I knew it was alcohol.

So maybe in May (?) I started the 100 Day account. I wanted to put it out there to document things and see if I could connect with anyone else. And I slipped up, too. But I kept getting tired of apologizing to the IG followers and on my newly created blog. Like, "I had a beer again. I am at Day 1 again." And then I guess it just stuck? I kind of got sick of MYSELF for making excuses all the time and just not sticking to what I promised.

I have bad days - today, for example. :-) I have thought about drinking ALL DAY and I don't know if it gets better. I hear it does.

The only thing that keeps me from drinking is I know I won't sleep.

  • I know I will feel like crap.

  • I know I will disappoint myself AGAIN.

  • I know I will break out and feel even WORSE than I do now.

  • It won't make my day better.

  • It won't make my kids less whiny.

  • I will numb out for a bit but I will have to deal with it all later on.

The last time I drank I drank one bottle of red wine and almost a bottle of white. It was like I was trying to get myself sick so I could remind myself why. I know that sounds so bad. But I was SO sick the next day. I just try to think of that and psych myself out.

Anyway, raw and honest? If you want it, you will find a WAY to fight through it eventually. If you don't, there will always be an EXCUSE (from Rachel Hollis).

  • For the longest time, I thought I wanted to be sober, but I didn't want to tough it out at 5 p.m.

  • For the longest time, I wanted to be alcohol free, but I didn't want to feel uncomfortable around my friends and family.

  • For the longest time, I wanted to see if I could do it - but I didn't want to change my habits.

I hope this makes sense or resonates with you a little (I hope ALOT!). I also used to envy those who had gone a while without alcohol and I finally DECIDED that I AM one of those people and I COULD do it. I think of Gabrielle Bernstein or Clare Pooley or Bradley Cooper or Robert Downey Jr. Those are all bad ass people who choose not to drink. Why can't I be that way?

O.K. So, this weekend is our 11th anniversary and we are going to Asheville to celebrate. I am SO fretting it because I know I will romanticize the role wine plays and want to indulge. But it's conversations like these that keeps me from going back....what do you think? :)

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Q&A with Karolina from Euphoric Alcohol Free (Day 24: Sober October!)

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Today I'm really excited to share a Q&A with Karolina Rzadkowlolska!

Karolina is a wellness blogger who shares the joys of an alcohol-free lifestyle with her audience. Based in San Diego, she provides alternative drink ideas and is currently writing a book about the many benefits sobriety brings.

Today, she's sharing her story on how she found so much happiness once she left alcohol behind. She's been featured on Tell Better Stories AND Greatist and I am so thankful that she agreed to share:

  • The physical, spiritual and emotional benefits she experiences by choosing to lead a sober life

  • Why self-actualization is one of the best pieces of being alcohol free

  • Some soft cocktail (mocktail or sans cocktail!) recipes for autumn

In this Q&A she addresses the "moderation illusion" that many of us have when trying to limit our alcohol intake and describes her foray into an alcohol-free lifestyle as a "health and soul-conscious decision" - which I LOVE.


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You can read the full interview here.

I'd love to hear what you think! And again, many thanks to Karolina for participating in this Sober October challenge.

WANT MORE?

  1. Click here to see three autumn-inspired soft cocktail options, courtesy of Karolina

  2. Check out Karolina's tips on how to "Rock a Party Sober"

  3. Learn more about Karolina and upcoming news at euphoricaf.com or on Instagram at @karolinarzad

  4. Join the 100 Days VIP Community (a Private Facebook page) to connect with others and share your successes and challenges

  5. Happy Day 24 of Sober October!

Day 22 - Self-sabotaging thoughts and what to do about them!

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Have you ever heard of someone self sabotaging to avoid a successful outcome?

According to Pyscology Today: Behavior is said to be self-sabotaging when it creates problems and interferes with long-standing goals. The most common self-sabotaging behaviors are procrastination, self-medication with drugs or alcohol and comfort eating. 

"These acts may seem helpful in the moment, but they ultimately undermine us, especially when we engage in them repeatedly," the article continues.

Whether it's lose weight, get sober, start a business or anything else, you have the power to tell those self-sabotaging thoughts or limiting beliefs to bug off. You deserve to have a clear path to achieve and realize your dreams.

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Here are some common thoughts associated with limiting beliefs.

  • I'm not worth the success that would come by reaching this goal.

  • I can control my life where it is - the way I know it - if it stays the same. 

  • It's too much work to change.

  • My idea is crazy.

I've been having some crazy nightmares lately. Nightmares where I'm getting rejected at every turn. Dreams where I'm literally forced to move backwards (as in drive backwards on the interstate!) And I wake up thinking "hmm. That was weird." 

I really do think it's my subconscious sending me messages to not fear things like rejection or change. And to encourage me to keep making forward progress on my goals no matter what. And to be aware of self-sabotaging behavior so I don't go down that path.

So what have I been doing to combat these crazy dreams and, potentially self-sabotaging thoughts? 

  • I replace negative thoughts with positive images. 

  • I say affirmations. 

  • I pray. 

  • I create vision boards and write down my goals. 

  • I visualize my goals and see my success as it unfolds.

And, if you've made it this far I'm telling you now that one of my biggest dreams is to grow 100 Days to a huge, vibrant and thriving community full of women supporting other women to enjoy an alcohol-free lifestyle. I want to write for parenting publications to prove that mommy juice and wine memes don't need to be a standard in parenthood. I want to write a book or secure speaking opportunities and podcast interviews to share my story and try to inspire others to go after their dreams. I hate putting myself out there, but this is what I'm doing because I'm not going to self-sabotage my dreams and live in the shadows of "what if?"

What big dreams do you have? And how can you get those limiting beliefs to scram so you can live your best life? Day 22 of Sober October. :-)

Shades of Gray + The Drinking Cycle

You don't have to admit to being an alcoholic to want to stop the drinking cycle.

Most of us know the deal by now:

  • We make the decision to quit drinking after having to endure one hell of a hangover

  • After a few days, we feel great - almost too great! - and ready to take on the world

  • Once we feel better, we start to slide into the dangerous thinking of, "maybe I can have a glass of wine tonight. What's the harm?"

  • And then, for me, I'd either drink the whole bottle that night or end up back where I started (which was drinking 7 days a week, several drinks a day).

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I've received so much feedback from people recently:

  • People who admit to hitting a "high bottom" and wanting to change their life

  • People who decide not to drink unless it's a very special occasion because it doesn't fit into their healthy lifestyle

  • People who didn't have a problem but wanted to feel the very best they could

  • People who wanted to lose weight

  • People who thought alcohol conflicted with their religious beliefs

It seems there is a shift in people - from all backgrounds and all experiences with alcohol - who are starting to question the role a drink plays in their particular (and totally unique!) lifestyle.

Personally, I just think it's EXHAUSTING to repeat the drinking cycle over and over and over again. That's why I took a break. And every day that goes by, I feel better and better about my decision to remove alcohol from my daily life.

What about you? Are you caught in the cycle? Have you broken free from the cycle? Are you a moderate drinker who doesn't really relate to the drinking cycle? I'd love to hear from you.

Thanks for taking the time to read this email. Happy Sunday, Kim

How to get better skin in one simple step

Did you know that drinking alcohol can wreak absolute havoc on the skin? I recently shared on Instagram that my skin has cleared up so much since I quit boozing!

And it's not just me! Take a look at other experiences from authors who kicked the drink and the effects it had on their skin:

After 30 days, ( ... ) my skin looked considerably better, and I actually enjoyed getting out of bed early morning to exercise. - James Swanwick, author of The 30-Day No Alcohol Challenge.

I shared how much healthier I felt. My face and eyes were less puffy, my skin less dry, and my little wine pouch belly had disappeared. - Bex Weller, author of A Happier Hour

Oh, and I look better, too, that's for sure. I've lost weight, my skin is healthier, I'm less puffy, and I'm making more effort with my clothes and grooming. - Lotta Dann, authoer of Mrs. D. is Going Without

I have far fewer lines, and my skin is all plump and rosy. Plus, I have white and shiny eyes. - Clare Pooley, The Sober Diaries


So what's the deal? According to Ashwood Recovery, alcohol is a diuretic, which means that it dehydrates the body. "Without proper hydration, the skin dries out and becomes less elastic."

TRANSLATION: Drinking alcohol can dry you out, making you look older! The other side effect can swing the totally opposite way, causing you to break out in a fit of acne.

"The consumption of alcohol can alter your hormone levels and an imbalance in estrogen or testosterone levels has been proven to be a direct cause of acne," says an article in Bioclarity.com.

I used to have breakouts all the time - some people thought I should cut out dairy. Some people thought it was a hormonal imbalance. I thought it was stress or my diet. And maybe all the above could still apply. However, I noticed THE BIGGEST change by cutting out alcohol.

In the day and age of instant gratification, I know we all want to see results pretty quickly. And I really did start seeing improvement around the two week mark when I quit drinking. Are you ready to take a break from drinking and see the results for yourself?

WANT MORE RESOURCES?

  1. Say your Daily Mantra "I take care of my body so my body can take care of me.

  2. Head over to the Private Facebook Group and join us to share that you completed Day 19 of Sober October - or share any successes/challenges you are experiencing.

  3. For extra support, send any questions you may have to me at kim@100dayssober.com.

A few of my favorite things (sober edition!) 🎶🎃🍫

What are a few of your favorite things in the fall?
Attend a music festival?

Visit a pumpkin patch?

Enjoy music with friends?

You can do that all without alcohol!! I have and it's been a fantastic experience so far. 

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These are a few of my favorite things I’ve done this October ALL without alcohol. 

☕️ Coffee dates with friends  

🎥 Dinner and movie (my dinner was $11 with tip!) 

🍫🔥Made s’mores by a bonfire 

🎃Took three kids (under aged 5) to a pumpkin patch! 

🌻Took pictures in a sunflower field 

🍷🎶 Went to a wine bar with friends and listened to live music 

🏈 Watched football 

💑 Had a date night 

👠Enjoyed a girls night out 

 🎡Went to a fall festival and rode a spinning strawberry ride with my son. 😵 

Life goes on. It doesn’t stop once you quit drinking. If you are willing to adjust your new normal slightly and change your perspective, you can enjoy it all. Life will never be perfect. But I honestly do look forward to each new day and the surprises it will bring! 

  1. WANT MORE RESOURCES?

  1. Say your Daily Mantra "I enjoy fall activities because of the people around me and the places I go." whenever you have a chance.

  2. Head over to the Private Facebook Group and join us to share that you completed Day 17 of Sober October.

  3. Send any questions you may have to me at kim@100dayssober.com. I want us all to have a successful Sober October so let me know how I can help.

Sobriety Delivers everything Alcohol Promised

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How powerful is this quote?

When I saw the quote above on Instagram, I knew I had to share.

You see, for me, my life had turned into a dependency on alcohol. I thought I needed wine for:

  • Relaxation

  • Celebration

  • Rest

  • Self-Care

  • Entertainment

  • Happiness

But I've learned that - without alcohol - I can do all those things (and more!) in a truly authentic manner.

  • I have less anxiety

  • I have more motivation

  • I am kinder

I feel like a sponge that is soaking up inspiration, love and support all around! 

The truth is, alcohol had stripped me of self-confidence, while also giving me a dose of anxiety and uneasiness in everything I did. I have been meditating more, praying more and connecting with people more. I reach out to people to let them know I am thinking of them. I am happier. Confident. At peace.

What is alcohol taking from you that sobriety may be able to provide? Just something to think about. xoxo Kim

  1. WANT MORE RESOURCES?

  1. Say your Daily Mantra "I am sober." whenever you have a chance.

  2. Head over to the Private Facebook Group and join us to share that you completed Day 16 of Sober October.

  3. Send any questions you may have to me at kim@100dayssober.com. I want us all to have a successful Sober October so let me know how I can help.


How to add essential oils to your sobriety toolbox

Happy Monday! Super excited to be celebrating Day 15 of Sober October! Last year, I think I made it to Day 8 of Sober October so - if nothing else at least I’m making progress!

Once I started reading books written by people who got sober, I noticed many of them mentioned the use of essential oils. For example, Bex Weller, author of A Happier Hour, wrote that she started to incorporate essential oils into a bedtime routine that had her looking forward to something after attending a special event:

"I put fresh sheets on the bed, and placed a new essential oil and a great book on my bedside table."

Also, Holly Whitaker from Hip Sobriety added essential oils to her sober toolbox as a necessity, among rosary/prayer beads and good tea and healing music!

When exploring topics for this Sober October Challenge, I definitely wanted to address how to incorporate essential oils into a daily regimen. And I really appreciate insight from Joy, of Lemon and Joy Life! Here are a few basics about what essential oils are - and how to use them. She also provides a few special blends that are great to promote relaxation and reduce stress. Follow her on Instagram at Lemon and Joy Life - and definitely reach out to her if you have any questions!

 Image courtesy of Young Living

Image courtesy of Young Living

What are essential oils? - Essential oils are the highly concentrated version of the natural oils found in plants, trees, shrubs and flowers. They are the lifeblood of plants and contain therapeutic properties when properly distilled.

 Image courtesy of Lemon and Joy Life

Image courtesy of Lemon and Joy Life

How can you use essential oils? - To use oils aromatically, you can:

  • open the bottle and take a whiff

  • rub a drop in your hands, cup them together and breathe in

  • diffuse them in a diffuser.

According to Joy, research shows that the constituents in pure essential oils stimulate olfactory receptors in the brain and activate the limbic system which is associated with memory and emotion. Simply inhaling an oil can ease daily stresses and emotional ups and downs. Many oils can also be used topically. To use oils topically, you can apply to your wrists and breathe in. Or you can apply to your neck or chest.

Here are some Young Living Oils that Joy suggests to promote relaxation or relieve stress:

Lavender- is the most popular of all essential oils because most people have heard of Lavender being a relaxing aroma even if they aren't familiar with essential oils or aromatherapy. This one can be diffused, applied topically, made into a pillow spray or room spray.

FUN FACT: Lavender is frequently called the "switch blade oil" because it has so many uses. 

Stress Away- a blend of Lavender, Vanilla, Lime and Cedarwood that smells like a tropical getaway. Keep the roll on you in a bag and take it with you to help calm the mind and body while on the go. It is great to use during rush hour traffic or before a difficult meeting.

FUN FACT: Both Lavender and Stress Away are also available in all natural bath bombs that are a great way to relax after a rough day. They are fun, fizzy and relaxing and so nourishing for your skin. 

Tranquil- another handy roll on but this one has Lavender, Cedarwood, Roman Camomile. This one is a favorite of parents and children.

FUN FACT: Joy suggests taking it with you to calm a tantrum on the go, you can apply it to children or adults at bedtime to promote a restful atmosphere and prepare the body for a good night's sleep.

Peace and Calming- "This one is a favorite to diffuse at bedtime in our house," says Joy. It is a blend of Tangerine, Orange, Ylang Ylang, Patcholi and Blue Tansy. "We love the aroma and the sense of calm it brings to our house. I have been known to diffuse this during playdates too!"

FUN FACT: Essential oils have been around since biblical times but they have had a resurgence in popularity in recent years and now you can buy them any where. They are not all the same, even if the label says "pure" or "all natural." According to Joy, Young Living has the Seed to Seal guarantee meaning they have the highest standards in every step of the process, starting with the best seeds, grown in optimal conditions, harvested at the optimal time, then distilled with the utmost care and precision and, finally, every batch of oils is tested in house and by a 3rd party with multiple tests to ensure every bottle of oil contains the correct amount the therapeutic constituents. Young Living has been around for 25 years and truly sets the standards for the industry.

  1. WANT MORE RESOURCES?

  1. Say your Daily Mantra "I seek wellness in my life." whenever you have a chance.

  2. Head over to the Private Facebook Group and join us to share that you completed Day 15 of Sober October.

  3. Send any questions you may have to me at kim@100dayssober.com. I want us all to have a successful Sober October so let me know how I can help.


#thisis40 - 40 ideas to try when you want to drink

Happy Saturday!

For those needing inspiration, I made a list of 40 things to do instead of reach for a glass of wine. What did I miss? Would love to continue the conversation with you. xoxo Kim

1. Pray

2. Visualize success

3. Meditate

4. Exercise

5. Drink a non alcoholic beer

6. Make a mocktail

7. Read a sober success story

8. Envision the person you want to be

9. Reach out for support on Instagram

10. Find a way to be accountable

11. Go to the zoo

12. Get a massage

13. Take a nap

14. Make a coffee drink

15. Go for a walk

16. EFT

17. Walk a dog

18. Play a game with your kids

19. Think through the drink and how you will feel the next day

20. Drink a glass of water

21. Do 10 push-ups

22. Journal

23. Read a good book

24. List out your whys

25. Find a mentor

26. Join a support group

27. Go to an AA meeting

28. Call a friend

29. Write a letter

30. Listen to a podcast

31. Bake a cake

32. Eat a cake 🎂

33. Go to a movie

34. Dance

35. Make a list of what you are grateful for

36. Make a list on the benefits of not drinking

37. Sing a song

38. Read poetry

39. Memorize bible verses

40. Believe in yourself

WANT MORE RESOURCES?

  1. Say your Daily Mantra "I make choices that bring me closer to reaching my goals." whenever you have a chance.

  2. Head over to the Private Facebook Group and join us to share that you completed Day 13 of Sober October.

  3. Send any questions you may have to me at kim@100dayssober.com. I want us all to have a successful Sober October so let me know how I can help.

Sober October Day 12 - more inspiration from Sober In Vegas! (part 2 of 2)

Happy Friday!

  1. Yesterday I shared some insight from Kim at Sober In Vegas on how to enjoy an alcohol-free trip to Las Vegas! But what about your own home town? Or traveling to visit friends you haven't seen in a while?

    Today, Kim is sharing a few more thoughts and insights that are perfect to absorb as we head into the weekend! Hope everyone has a good one.

Q. How can you navigate your own hometown (or one you are traveling to) and experience the area sans alcohol?

A. Two words - get curious. Been wondering what that weird building was on your drive home? Pull over and finally check it out.Been wondering if there are any local theatre companies to see a show at on a Saturday night? Start doing some research and asking around. And get involved. You'll start learning so much more about your community by getting involved, and you will start to feel more comfortable and rooted.

"When I moved back to Vegas after almost a decade of being away, I found the quickest way to feel less lonely (and more tempted to drink) was to volunteer weekly," says Kim. "It gave me social interactions to look forward to, helped me get to know my community, and it felt great to give back!"

Finally, See if there are local sobriety meet ups in the area you are traveling. "I also try and check Instagram for sober hashtags in the area just to see what other folks are doing in that town that don’t involve alcohol," she suggested.

Q. What if you are staying with friends?

A. Tell them ahead of time you aren’t drinking. According to Kim, "this has been the hardest thing for me as so much of my current travel has been to friends weddings. I bit the bullet recently and started telling my friends before the trip, 'Hey, just wanted to give you a heads up I stopped drinking–just didn’t want you to think I was being rude if I don’t take you up on an offer for wine or beer with dinner.'

Almost every single friend was supportive and even sensitive about this, planning ahead to have non-alcoholic drinks for me at the event."

See if there are local sobriety meet ups in the area you are traveling.I also try and check Instagram for sober hashtags in the area just to see what other folks are doing in that town that don’t involve alcohol

Q. What are the best pieces of living an alcohol-free lifestyle that you've experienced so far? And do you have tips/tools you use when you perhaps are craving a drink?

A. READING, AUDIOBOOKS & PODCASTS. The minute I start to feel frazzled or lonely or tempted, I dive into something to challenge my brain. When you're feeling at your best explore and stock up--because when you are feeling down you won't have the energy.

Q. What keeps you motivated to continue a sober lifestyle?

A. The fact that everything is harder when alcohol is in my life. Getting sober didn't magically 'fix' me. It is one of the best decisions I've ever made--but sober me was still me and my problems were still there. What has made such a huge difference however is how I am able to tackle those problems now instead of ignore them. I sleep better, I have way fewer panic attacks, and much fewer fights with my spouse and family. I've been able to seek help for long standing emotional & mental issues, and had the time to have my first solo art show. I don't know that any of that would have been possible if booze was still in my life!

WANT MORE RESOURCES?

  1. Read Kim's blog post that provides more tips for traveling sober!

  2. Follow Sober in Vegas on Instagram

  3. Say your Daily Mantra "I choose happiness." whenever you have a chance.

  4. Head over to the Private Facebook Group and join us to share that you completed Day 12 of Sober October.

  5. Send any questions you may have to me at kim@100dayssober.com. I want us all to have a successful Sober October so let me know how I can help.

3 tips to try + enjoy while traveling sober! (Sober in Vegas contributor!)

 Today’s blog post comes courtesy of Sober in Vegas!

Today’s blog post comes courtesy of Sober in Vegas!

If you are like me, I start thinking about the weekend on Thursday!

One of my favorite things to do is to plan a road trip over the weekend - to explore our beautiful state and surrounding areas.

And when I first stopped drinking, I thought I would probably never go to a place like Las Vegas again for a special trip.

 Image courtesy of Sober in Vegas

Image courtesy of Sober in Vegas

I don't drink. I don't smoke. I don't gamble. What would I possibly do in Sin City if I didn't enjoy any of those things?

Then I discovered Sober in Vegas on Instagram. Through blog posts and images, she shares the unlimited possibilities of exploring Las Vegas and the great state of Nevada as a complete and total teetotaler.

From outdoor adventures to magic shows and art exhibits to nature trails, there truly is something for everyone. And I'm so grateful to Kim at Sober in Vegas for sharing that part of her community.

Today, she shares some tips on how to enjoy your travels, road trips and more while pursuing a sober lifestyle.

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All responses below provided by Kim at Sober in Vegas. THANK YOU, KIM for your expert advice!

TIP 1: PLAN AHEAD. In a place like Las Vegas where alcohol is everywhere, even the strong can feel weak. By knowing ahead of time where you're going to dine or explore (and what alcohol-free options they have) you've preemptively cut out so much anxiety and temptation.

Also don't be afraid to call a restaurant ahead of time and ask what their alcohol-free options are--especially the higher end places. Vegas is a town dedicated to customer satisfaction and often times they are eager to accommodate.

TIP 2: BE AN EARLY BIRD. My tip for you if you're staying on The Strip is to go to bed early and get up early. Late nights in casinos can be rough, and if you have any social anxiety, it can be hard.

"Early in the mornings the casinos tend to be much less populated, and if you're walking outdoors on The Strip it's even more sparsely populated," says Kim. "Seven in the morning is the perfect time to enjoy the outdoors on The Strip hangover free!"

TIP 3: CREATE A COMFORTABLE ENVIRONMENT. Don't forget to pack items outside of normal clothes/toiletries to ensure comfort while traveling. Some tips Kim recommends are: Earplugs and an eye mask (for better sleep), headphones (to enjoy podcasts or audiobooks!), essential oils (to relax or create a spa-like environment), snacks and extra towels or a favorite blanket.

Stay tuned for more insight from Sober in Vegas. Tomorrow, Kim addresses how to explore your own home town sober AND the best parts she's experienced about living a sober lifestyle. xoxo Kim

 Image courtesy of Sober in Vegas

Image courtesy of Sober in Vegas

  1. WANT MORE RESOURCES?

  1. Read Kim's blog post that provides more tips for traveling sober!

  2. Follow Sober in Vegas on Instagram

  3. Say your Daily Mantra "I choose adventure. I choose sobriety." whenever you have a chance.

  4. Head over to the Private Facebook Group and join us to share that you completed Day 11 of Sober October.

  5. Send any questions you may have to me at kim@100dayssober.com. I want us all to have a successful Sober October so let me know how I can help.


Sober October: Day 10 (...are you a fan of tough love?)

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I hate being the bad guy.

My husband tends to be the one who is more strict with the children. I tend to let more slide.

At the PR agency I co-own with my business partner, we always joke that I'm "good cop" and she's "bad cop."

I sometimes have a hard time being super harsh. I don't like it and I can see so many sides to a story.

But when it comes to getting what you want, it won't serve any of us to do anything half way. Especially when it comes to being sober and breaking a habit like accepting alcohol at every turn, for any occasion.

I know I've learned a lot from my slip ups. I learn each time I don't want to drink again - and then I find better ways to cope with a certain emotion.

But there comes a time when you've got to own the decisions you make.

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Do you want to try life without alcohol? Or do you want to keep repeating the cycle and stay where you are?

It's not going to be easy to pass on the champagne at brunch, the beer at the birthday celebration or the wine while you're making dinner. But it will be worth it.

You'll learn things about yourself. You'll find new ways to cope with emotions and stressors. You'll do something that you'll be proud of. Stop making excuses and you'll ultimately feel better if you just stick with it.

Why not give it a try? Why not step outside your comfort zone and fight through the tough spots?

Don't give up on yourself. Don't break your promise to yourself. Don't quit when it's hard.

DECIDE YOU CAN. AND BELIEVE YOU CAN.

xoxo Kim

  1. FOLLOW THE NEXT STEPS TO COMPLETE DAY 10

  1. Say your Daily Mantra "I make choices that get me closer to my goal." whenever you have a chance.

  2. Head over to the Private Facebook Group and join us to share that you completed Day 10.

  3. Send any questions you may have to me at kim@100dayssober.com. I want us all to have a successful Sober October so let me know how I can help.


From frazzled to freedom - How I got to 100 days sober

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When I first set out to complete 100 days without alcohol, I imagined this day full of balloons and confetti.

Celebrating my success with lots of hoopla.

Espousing all my newfound wisdom sitting on top of a mountain.

The truth is, I don’t like to make a big fuss and draw attention to myself. The 100 Days of Sober Instagram page is so radically different than anything I’ve ever done because it does not mesh with my “I want to hide and be behind the scenes personality” - but I keep receiving notes that what I’m sharing is helpful. And that is why I continue to share bits and pieces of my journey.

And I’ve got to be honest. That feedback sets me on fire and ignites a flame inside of me. I love it. I received a note from a woman who said she stopped drinking because she saw herself in my posts - and that is such a humbling thing to receive.

Instead of celebrating, I’m reflecting. Reflecting on:

  • 100 days of saying no to wine to squash (insert emotion here)

  • 100 days of saying yes to exploring other ways to deal with (insert emotion, stress, celebration here)

  • 100 days of saying yes to feeling all my emotions

  • 100 days of saying yes to better sleep

  • 100 days of saying no to overthinking or allowing someone else’s thoughts of me dictate what I choose to share

  • 100 days of saying no to things that don’t serve me well

While I’m happy to be sitting here at 100 days, I can’t help but to think of the woman who is hungover in her kitchen right now, washing down Aleve with coffee.

If she’s anything like I was, she’s snapping at her kids and apologizing to her husband for the fight they had last night, while throwing away a bottle of Chardonnay from the fridge that surprisingly only has a spit of wine still in it.

“I didn’t mean to drink that much,” she thinks. “Today I will not drink at all,” she falsely promises herself until the stress gets to be too much and she decides to pour ‘just a smidge’ to take the edge off, only to repeat the whole damn cycle again.

I wrote a post at the 30-day mark - and everything in here still rings true. The books, the courses, the importance of accountability, the lies I told myself. Please read that to see some resources that I have found immensely helpful.

Here at 100 days, I have a little more insight to share that I promised at Day 30. This actually comes from recent conversations with people asking for advice.

  • One day at a time - I admit. I am as basic as they come. I’m a cliche. I like Pumpkin Spice Lattes and say shit like “one day at a time” - but I’ll tell you why this works for me. Just try saying “no” when it gets hard. Just for one day. And your brain will remember and say “oh I was able to do this yesterday” and try it again. It may take a few times to stick - but when have you ever been able to master something after just one try? Give yourself a break and keep at it. One day your brain will say “no more tomorrows” - try it today.

  • Change the way you look at alcohol - Did you ever have a friend, coworker or mentor that you thought was just so beautiful in every way? They could do no wrong. But then you learned a really awful story about them - about the way they treated people, or cheated loved ones or anything else truly awful? And then how did you look at them? Was it the same? You probably could never view them as the beauty they once were in your eyes. And that’s what I’m asking you to do with alcohol.

  • Decide you can - Just freaking believe in yourself and decide you can. No one can do this for you. No inspirational quote, meme or someone else’s success story is going to make you do something you don’t believe you can do in the first place. Decide you can. And then take little steps towards that goal. Don’t worry if you mess it up. Just start over. Believe in yourself. No one else will do this work for you.

    I’ve started to view alcohol as a toxin. A carcinogen that is linked to a number of cancers. And a brain altering poison that makes me dizzy and fuzzy. It helps me to look at it that way instead. And if you are reading this looking for ideas, it may help you, too.

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I’m sitting here in my kitchen writing this to you today. It’s calm and peaceful. I’m grateful and hopeful that perhaps someone else will be inspired. And I’m praying for all you strong souls out there who are disappointed in themselves again this morning - and perhaps feel they haven’t got it quite figured out. Guess what? Neither do I! Just still taking it day by day. xoxo Kim

P.S. Life is still not 100% perfect. It never will be. During this post, the dog has thrown up and escaped out the backyard. At least I’m not running after him down the streets hungover right? :)